Yep, you read that right.

“Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.”
-Oscar Wilde

Five years ago, if someone was to have asked me who or what inspires me, I would have listed a plethora of people whose careers were the epitome of what I wanted mine to be. I would have raved about the people who tackled impossible feats, about courageous lovers who seemed to have the romance thing down pat. Of all the things mentioned though, I not once yearned to be like one very important person- myself.

I think one of the biggest mistakes I made, was putting people on high pedestals because their life consisted of something that mine lacked (or so I thought). I once knew of a person and couldn’t wait for the day to actually meet them. They seemed to have life so well put together, that I began to look up to them. But then the day came. I met them and in all honesty the most I could feel was disappointment. Without knowing them, I looked at their life from afar and didn’t take in personality factors nor did I remove the halo from over their head and perceive them as human. Now here we were face to face and everything I had hoped for was the exact opposite. At the time I was distraught. I couldn’t believe someone that I took a liking to, would be someone I would have preferred to not have met at all. Ever felt that way before? Yeah I see ya over there thinking, ha! God put them in my life to bring me my reality check, to show me that all that glitters isn’t gold and that the only person I should seek for my dreams becoming reality was Him and Him alone.

We live in a time where the phrase “#Goals” is a thing. A hashtag tossed under celebrity pics and friends’ (possibly) edited pics, showing how that place, that person, or thing is what you too hope to one day have.  Now don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with being motivated by outside forces, but some people immerse themselves in too deep. They yearn for the next man’s wealth, relationship, and overall status so much that their life slowly becomes a spitting image of another, ultimately losing themselves. Holding on to someone else’s success not only can be discouraging but it also belittles your value, your gift. God has given each of us something unique to bring to this world so don’t let the accomplishments of others cloud your vision and dim your light.

Do you get it now? That’s why I gave up on my goals.

Today’s Keyword: self-assurance (n.): confidence in one’s own abilities or character

While having humility is a major key, a little bit of self-assurance goes a long way. Be confident in your gift. Think about it: you put #Goals under photos and videos, not having any clue of the true story. You are only getting a clear depiction of the things people want you to see. The best thing I could have ever done was stop looking to other human beings for help to create my story. There can be no co-author in an autobiography (and truthfully, not everyone nor thing deserves to even play a role in the creation of it either).

I learned this the hard way. Love you and your life for what it is and hey, if you’re unhappy, push towards what you want it to be- not what you see someone else’s life being.Be inspiring. Be inspired. But never feel the need to imitate. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side, set your own goals and be them.

No longer Goal digging,


August 7, 2016


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    Mallize Wilkes

    July 27, 2016

    Great piece. Yearning to discover more about myself and the things I like and the things I want to do everyday. I’m craving to be more like the woman God wants me to be. That’s the real goal. Thanks Ki.

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      July 27, 2016

      And you are off to such a great start! I’m beyond proud of you. Thanks for reading 🙂

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    wondering woldo

    July 28, 2016

    First off amazing read. I am no longer goal digging also because I have come to the conclusion that first I have to self dig. I have to be able to find out who I really am and my true capabilities. Growing up I was always put down but I never seem to let it worry me or so I thought. As I finished high school started to begin college, I was told by a former high school teacher that I shouldn’t have took four class’s cause I wouldn’t be able to manage. I never really paid it any mind until I failed my first test. After failing my first test all that was said to me started rushing back and i panic and from there on out I panicked everyday until I dropped out. After two years of thinking how can I make myself better I realized that I truly don’t know the person that I am trying to make better so now I’m on the hunt to find me the real me and from there rebuild the courage and drive that I had no longer facilitated.

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      July 28, 2016

      I am beyond moved that you were able to feel something from my piece. Stay focused and refuse to let your hindrances of yesterday deter you from your future of tomorrow. Listen, you got this! Thank you so much for reading .