Sometimes the season we meet a person is the exact season we were meant to leave them in. Often times, after a length of time (whether long or short) we find ourselves dissatisfied and wanting more from a person, more than they are capable of giving, simply because we’ve dragged them along for a few seasons longer than we were supposed to.
The hardest thing to do is let a person in your life, whom you love dearly, go. To have so many fond memories, secrets, and laughs built up with a person and just let it all become a thing of the past can be a tough feat for anyone. The fact of the matter is, it’s time. In that said point in your life, they were essential. Your friend brought you joy and you thought it would last a lifetime. Here you are years later and the friendship seems to be fading. Communication has decreased from every day to once a month , maybe twice if you all aren’t preoccupied with life. And you’re freaking out. Not all the time does a friendship have to end horribly. Hell, not all the time does a friendship necessarily even have to end. Sometimes connections just run their course and things change. I mean, life’s journey changes us all and while some friendships are able to stand the test of time, others change with the journey itself.
At a certain point, you have to grow. We must all grow. Even me. The thing about growth though is that sometimes with growth comes letting go of people and sometimes even opening your heart to new ones. For some reason though, when you say that people always assume the worst. Now don’t get me wrong, there are friends that seem to take more in the friendship than they give and that’s when you cut it! A friend like that is not an asset at all. They seem to be more damaging to your life than supportive and healthy for you. Having friends is a luxury, not a necessity. So when a person begins to twist your mind into thinking you need them, that is when you say, “I’ll take the nearest exit for $300, Alex.” But, not all of the time is a friendship toxic in any shape or form. Sometimes things end with some of the most amazing people, simply because their season in your life has come to a close.
Today’s Keyword: contentment (n.): a state of happiness and satisfaction
When people end relationships, outsiders looking in always think that something horrendous must have occurred. Let them think as they please. The blame is on neither of the two involved. Now, I’m sure there are those relationships in which both could have done things a little differently, but life is too short to harbor ill feelings because of things that neither have the power to change. I’m here today to tell you all that I’ve let some friends go and I am okay. It is okay. Losing a friend may hurt at some point but trust your gut feeling. Sometimes you have to realize that there is no love lost, but maybe it’s just better to love from a distance. I can think of a few people that I no longer talk to at all (or as often as I used to). However, I am still beyond elated for them and all of their accomplishments as we all venture off into this big world. I am content with the idea that hey, at that point in life we rocked and rolled, but that was then and this is now. If a friendship was meant to last forever, be hopeful that the friendship is far from dead but if not, be okay with letting go and moving forward. You both can be doing the best you can for the friendship and life will still cause you all to grow apart. We grow up. We begin to develop into our own beliefs, surroundings, likes/dislikes. Be content. The greatest reward is knowing that you have no hate in your heart, no blame, and no shame in moving forward. If this made you think about a friendship with an old pal, reach out to them and simply hope that everything is well on their end. If you’ve recently ended a friendship with a few, hold nothing heavy on your heart. Love from a distance and be content.
Because hey, it’s not me or you.
Until next time,